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Sunday, May 18, 2008

Realities of Life

In my own personal experience, I have seen alcoholism destroy lives, impact families, segregate loved ones, and so forth. It is nothing that I would wish upon another person. I have had my own struggles with my biological fathers drinking. In one sense, I have had to remove myself from the situation. The roles have reversed: I am the parent, he is the child. I presume its not uncommon for children of alcoholics to reverse the roles in order to gain some twisted sort of control over the situation.
Addiction is terrible. It overwhelms a person and their loved ones. At the current moment, a friend is trying to deal with the situation faced in front of said friend. I dont think said friend realizes the turmoil or drama which is associated with the events that will be brought into friends current world. Friend is having the alcoholic move in with another family member as the alcoholic "begins to die".
The family member is going to get a quick lesson in life for sure. To watch your father destroy himself in front of your eyes is something you can never get out of your head. To watch your father hallucinate due to withdrawls is something a child, no matter the age should witness. To watch your father crave for the drink and want to toss your love aside is horrid, especially in your own house which you have opened up and are only trying to help because you love them.
I wish I would have never gone thru the above mentioned process. In fact, theres so much to it, but i dont need or want to rehash it in my head at the moment.

Alcoholism is such a selfish "ism". Such debate whether its genetic, a chemical process, learned behaviour, etc.... at the end of the day, each is responsible for their very own actions.

My heart goes out to my friend and extended family for all that they will endure. I pray for the safety of everyone, the strength to carry on, and that the journey doesnt destroy them.

I have friends who are in recovery and doing wonderful. Most are sucessfully on track each day. Thats not to say that they arent still struggling with the demons, but they are taking each day "one step at a time". I commend anyone who has overcome such an "ism". It sure isnt easy. I pray for you my friend.


Amy Eden said...

Sometimes the death of an alcoholic parent can be the birth of the child - I've seen that happen for people in my family. I hope your friend seeks support during and, especially, after the death.

Nice blog!

amy eden

InALittleMinute said...

Thanks Amy for your encouragement. How true it is, the birth of the child. Thank you for your kind words, my friend will be touched by your thoughts.